Journalled on Sunday, 16th of April 2023-6 Days to My Birthday | Copacabana, Rio de Janeiro: 27 degrees, a little hot, Sunny and slightly cloudy.
This Sunday morning is a little chilly, with overcast clouds threatening rain. Since I am broke right now, there isn’t much I can do.
Working out at the end of Leme is cheap. A coffee at the local baker’s is cheap. Going out all day isn’t cheap.
The main outside events of the morning were getting up early, working out, having a coffee at the local baker’s, and buying some bread for Yasmin’s breakfast. When Yasmin is with me, I like to prepare a decent breakfast for her on the weekends.
Since she usually gets up late on Sunday mornings, I want to make her a good breakfast so she can have a late lunch with her mother or me.
A good example of a breakfast for her is a bed of toast toasted in the air fryer with olive oil and oregano. Then, if the salad is already prepared in the fridge, a bed of salad is on top of the toast, with lettuce, arugula, tomato, and onion, with a bit of salt, pepper, olive oil, and balsamic vinaigrette.
Then, sliced ham and mozzarella are on top of the salad, and finally, a fried egg finishes it off. It is incredibly good, and we both like it very much: simple, tasty, and filling. I enjoy doing it for her, and I think she appreciates it, too!!!
Over the last two years, I have noticed a stronger sense of responsibility in her studies and life. I have always been willing to talk to her about anything, and she has never been afraid to ask me about anything she doesn’t understand well or has doubts about.
Our talks are clarifying and soothing for an active, inquisitive young mind hungrily seeking comprehension and knowledge.
Just this morning, we talked about friendship, school politics and transgender and gender awareness in general. I explained to her that, like many parents, I have two sides when it comes to my daughters. The first is, obviously, as a father: I love her and want her to be happy, so, in principle, I would support her in almost anything she does or wants to do.
While, as a man and an adult, I have certain principles that come from being a man and from being born in a different culture and time than hers, there are some things that, as a father, I would support her in, but that, at the same time, would disappoint me.
For example, if she told me that she was gay, I would accept her position and support her as her father in the name of happiness, but at the same time, I would be a little disappointed.
As parents, we must be sincere, frank, and transparent with our children while also being mindful not to hurt them. While they have their own choices, we, as parents, also have our own principles, and we should not compromise our principles or identity by accommodating our children’s actions that don’t align with our values, common sense, or decency.
There is a delicate balance, and crossing it can lead to even more serious consequences and hardship!
Sunday was another lazy day, spent watching films and reading the first chapter of a new book. I bought Yasmin a takeaway for lunch from the restaurant below. I later took her back to her mother’s around 6 p.m., and everything was fine.
In bed by 9 p.m.
Thank you.
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Richard
